Importance of communication skill and art of conversation in personality development

The art of communication skill shows the personality of a person

By listening to the conversation or communication skill of a person, you can estimate not only his thoughts and feelings but also his mental and moral condition. Just as rainfall is measured by a rain-measuring device, personality can also be measured by the parameters of interaction. The conversation has been considered an art. Those who are unaware of this art can neither brighten their personality nor succeed in their business. Good teachers, good parents, good friends, good servants, and good agents are those who can communicate well.

The lives of many people are bitter and they appear to complain. The children are upset with the parents and the customers are angry with the shopkeeper. The subordinates are fed up with the officers. Moreover, nowadays even mutual disharmony is often seen in Guru and disciple. The reason for this tussle, malice, and mutual hatred is mainly that people do not know the method of conversation.

Power of conversation or communication skill to talk with others in personality development

One of the great aspirations of the human heart is to place its coin on the hearts of others. Everyone aspires for success in their business, job, and love.

Of course, intelligence is also respected in the world. Beauty also gets a favorable price. No one can deny the miracle power of wealth, but the person who does not know how to talk - who does not have the store of soft and cultured words, cannot become the master of hearts despite being the master of many qualities.

The heart can come in the grasp of the person whose words are sweet, whose tongue can identify the time and situation, and in whose conversation there is respect for others, praise, humility, and encouragement, the same person is really a magician. His friends look forward to meeting him. His wife and children wait for him. One gets spiritual pleasure by spending time with him. His subordinates follow his gestures and consider themselves blessed. Many of his difficulties are overcome by his words. Many obstacles themselves leave the way. Many aspirations are fulfilled by themselves.

Rule of good communication skill in personality development

The main rule of good communication is to discard unnecessary things altogether. Talk as much as you can for your purpose. Some people are such that while talking about war, they start talking about the house. At home, things refer to a trip. The talk will start about one person and they will take stories of four persons. This type of meaningless conversation is formed by talking more.

1. Keep the conversation short.

The longer conversation, the lesser its impact. Shakespeare states that 'brevity is the soul of intelligence.' The Pope's statement should also be kept in mind- 'Words are like leaves and like expressions fruits ... The tree where the leaves are more, its fruits are weak.'

People who talk more than necessary start to assume that people are interested in what they say. Actually, it is not a show of interest. No one thinks it appropriate to interrupt them, otherwise, they do not know how people think and hate them.

2. Also, listen to the words of others.

There are two aspects to the conversation — yes — to do and to listen. Like good speakers, there are very few good listeners in our society. It is necessary for the listeners to listen to their colleagues with peace and patience and also pay attention to them silently. With their behavior, they can make the speaker feel that they are listening with interest. If a person is speaking, then there should be no question until he finishes his talk. Many times people ask some questions to someone and he is answering that either they give another question or they start their story by cutting the middle. this is unfair. This makes the talker understand that he is being insulted by not giving importance to his words.

3. Avoid personal things at communication.

In any cultured civilized society, the questioner of unnecessary and unwanted questions is not seen with respect. During the train journey, many people meet, who do not hesitate to disturb the peace of their companions with meaningless questions. They are not content only by asking the name and place of departure - often they showered with family, place of residence, and related questions. They do not pay any attention to the fact that there are certain things in the life of every person, which they do not like to tell in front of all the people. The result of this is that where such people go, they produce the effect of hatred against themselves.

If you want to make your personality attractive then make it a rule not to ask questions about a person's personal subject.

Just as it is necessary that the other person's personal matters not be discovered, it is also necessary that the person talking does not continue talking unnecessarily. Some people have the nature that whoever will talk. They will definitely penetrate their personal matters.

 If you are talking about a child, then they will take the story of their children. If any house is mentioned, then he will start narrating the history of his house. If there is talk about someone's disease, then they will bring the disease of some person in their home. Will talk about the inflation of things and economic difficulties.

 If you want to get a place of respect in the mind of your friends, then always avoid self-actualization. The best people in the world have become those who did not to praise themselves.

The person giving good conversation does not consider any of his things to be a religious belief that there is no scope for any change or amendment in it or any opinion or argument can be tolerated against him.

 People who give their words in this way are given the status of unwavering truth. They cannot make the environment around them sweet and succulent. And leave aside, even if you are expressing any religious belief, even then others have the right to present arguments in favor of their views and have the same right to express their views.

 If you cannot tolerate any criticism or objections to your words, then the society is forced to accuse you of parochialism.

In spite of the reasonable and clear arguments of others, keeping your point not only destroys the conversation but also causes a huge loss to human personality. The fanatics can be the nature of those people who have an inferiority complex.

4. The most inappropriate aspects of the conversation skill.

The most inappropriate aspect of a conversation is that only one person goes on speaking and does not give the opportunity to speak to another. Such a person is guilty of insulting his comrades as above.

Those who listens to his words get bored very quickly. In response, there is such stubbornness in his mind that even his right and right things are considered false and meaningless. In this way, a person who speaks himself cannot benefit others and he does not listen to anyone, so there is no increase in his knowledge either.

If you do a psychological study of the life of such a person, you will find that he is very selfish. Selfishness is a sign of poor personality.

5. Don't repeat the same thing in conversation

It is also not right to repeat a word or sentence repeatedly during a conversation. Some people start each sentence with 'what name’'. Many people are accustomed to saying 'belief' and 'I mean it'. Some take an oath or swear ten times in a five-minute conversation or repeat a rude word repeatedly.

All these things should be avoided from the point of view of conversational art. This nature is a sign that there is inferiority in the speaker's brain, for which he is forced to resort to useless words again and again. Repeating a word over and over again has a very bad effect on the speech. The attention of the devotees is diverted from the real element and they do not understand.

A golden rule is not to ignore the surrounding environment while having a conversation. Many people mourn on the occasion of marriage and on the occasion of mourning they throw the words of marriage. If you are eating food, then you will start mentioning indigestion, constipation, cold or any other disgusting disease. If you go to a party, you will get into arguments with unfamiliar guests.

The famous philosopher Dale Carnegie of America has told an interesting incident with a view to warning such people. He wrote - 'Sir S. A banquet was presented in Smith's honor. I joined that too. One person while talking, quoted a statement and said that it is from Anjali.

I knew very well that the statement was not from Anjil but from Shakespeare. When I opposed him, he was adamant. A friend of mine, who had spent his life studying Shakespeare, was sitting there. He shook my leg from under the table and said, your idea is wrong. This statement is from Angil itself.

Returning from the feast, I told my friend - 'You knew very well that this statement is not of Angela, but of Shakespeare.' He replied 'Undoubtedly this statement is of Shakespeare. But we had gathered on the occasion of happiness, not for debate. That person did not ask us for an opinion, nor did he want to consult us, then why would he argue without reason? You should always avoid raising a quarrel.

6. Do not argue in vain.

The nature of debate and dispute is bad for everyone, but it is especially harmful to business people. All the firms in Europe and America especially educate their agents and workers to never argue with customers. In each city of India, more than ninety percent of the shopkeepers are such that they are ready to dispute the customer even on simple differences.

They understand that by confusing customers in the debate, they can be explained the qualities of their goods. This is a big illusion. It is almost impossible for customers to change their minds through debate. No person should hope to win the debate and win the sympathy and love of the one who talks to himself. The longer the debate, the greater the inclinations.

I will explain what the business people should do by an example. Suppose you do a furniture business. A person find defects in your tables or chairs and says that the goods of such a shop are better.

It is good on this occasion not to try to deny his point but without hesitation, say, 'Of course their goods are good. They have very good artisans. ' These words will close the door of debate and you will get an opportunity to convey the qualities of your goods to him.

7. Make conversation interesting

In order to make the conversation interesting, this rule should also be kept in mind that your conversation should be according to the mental inclination of the other person, his education, and his nature.

It is a big mistake to talk about Nirukta R Darshan in front of a person who loves poetry. One person was very popular in America. His rule was that whenever a guest would come to his house, he would study the subject a day in which that guest would be interested.

Remember your partner does not show interest in your conversation, does not show any signs of curiosity and he is being rudely yes, then you should understand that you are unfamiliar with his mind's interest.

A person proficient in conversational art always takes care of another person's feelings and rites during the conversation. As soon as he realizes that some of his things seem distasteful to his partner, he changes the topic of conversation at the same time.

8. Avoid meaningless criticism.

If a person loves the happiness and peace of his life, he should avoid lying and never say anything exaggeratedly.

The habit of cuckolding, blaming, and criticizing where deep-to-deep relationships break down, impedes this habit of popularity, progress, and success. One should not be under the illusion that he can become a good friend, a good worker, or a good officer in spite of cheating on his comrades, taking the blame of his officers, and criticizing his subordinates.

Many times a silent approach, sympathetic behavior, hiding the simple faults of one or a few complimentary sentences can lead to such works that cannot come out despite thousands of criticisms and admonitions. The history of the world is not empty of such incidents, whereas the mere words of a commander turned defeat into victory.

A president of an organization. About one hundred people work under him. He never criticized anyone. Once, some clerks of his office were talking loudly. He thought that he was not in the office.

When he saw that the noise was not ending and his work was being damaged, he sent a daily newspaper to a peon to study him. The clerks find out that she is in and they quietly get on to their work. There is no need to write more about this admirable and intelligent behavior of that person.

It has been written above that when a person is speaking, it is not right to interrupt him. This rule should be elaborated in such a way that even when he has finished his talk, it is not right to interrupt. Suppose a person is telling his colleagues about Calcutta.

According to your introduction and knowledge, even if he is saying wrong or he is exaggerating, it is not right that you start misleading him. By nature, It will be his desire to prove himself to the truth. He will stick to his word. It is possible that a quarrel will start in both of you.

If a person is misrepresenting the incident in front of a magistrate and you have a testimony, you have every right to cut it out - but in normal conversation, it is only right for you to remain silent. Is it necessary that you increase the number of your opponents by creating unnecessary fights?

9. Increase your knowledge

Lord Chesterfield wrote in a letter to his son, 'The conversation of uneducated people is not a conversation. They have neither the material nor the words to continue the conversation. A good conversation can be as interesting as any tasty dish, And this quality cannot be acquired without knowledge and experience.

Those wishing to have a good conversation should always keep these words of the Lord in mind. By studying good books and magazines, we can increase our knowledge, ideas, and word-store greatly.

A person who does not study is also ignorant of conversational art. Each young man should have a notebook. While studying, if you see any good sentence, any useful thing, any poem or verse, then note down immediately. This is one way that your conversation can be enriched.

 Some brief but important in conversations or communication.

* The tone should not be high while talking. This destroys the life force of man. The tone should not be so slow that the listener has difficulty.

* Stop the habit of beating your partner hand-in-hand by being happy about something.

* Do not talk for long while standing in front of someone's house or on the street corner.

* Do not point the finger at the person walking along the path.

* While speaking, do not take your face so close to your partner that he feels the movement of your breath.

* Spitting, gagging or cleaning the nose during a conversation is a sign of rudeness.

* When your partner is speaking, do not try to gaze at him. This will make him hesitant to openly speak.

* Do not force your forehead while talking.

*The most important thing is to speak first and then speak. This statement is still irrelevant today, as it was in the past.